By. Gwendolyn BainesNNPA Columnist
Ask Gwendolyn BainesDear Gwendolyn:One year ago, my mother became ill and I moved back home. Three months on my return, I received a call from a former girlfriend. We have dated up to now. However, I am thinking of telling her next week that the courtship has come to an end. This is the problem: She was once a beautiful “thin” young lady and I loved her. I still love her, but believe within my heart that I cannot accept her physical change. You see, Gwendolyn, my attraction turns off to fat.RobertDear Robert:I don’t care what you tell her, but make it gentle and not words of rudeness. To be unkind is always a bad thing. You see, her life should be more than having to change herself for you or anyone. If she loses weight, it should be for health reasons and not to please a man. You have a right to court and marry a physique of your desire. However, I do wish your sick mom would get up from her bed and have that mother-to-son talk. You think too much of yourself. Do you actually think your body is going to remain the same? Come on man, get real. Let me tell you this: Whatever image you see in your mirror, enjoy it because it won’t be there long. Got a problem? Don’t solve it alone. Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P. O. Box 78246, Nashville, Tenn. 37207-8246. To order books by Gwendolyn Baines, visit her website at www.gwendolynbaines.com. Also, tune in to www.newblackcity.com each Monday at 6 p.m. Eastern/5 p.m. Central time and talk live as John Bordeaux brings Gwendolyn Baines to you. Call (877) 969-2003.